1. Build good supportive relationships. It has been found that people who have good relationships with family and friends are happier and more resilient.
2. Adopt a hopeful outlook. Optimism has been linked to resilience. If this does not come naturally to you, ask yourself how a more optimistic friend would look at the situation.
3. Remove the crisis from setbacks. Getting through a difficult situation is tough enough without feeling the pressure and urgency of overreaction. Try to focus on action instead.
4. Take excellent care of yourself. When you get adequate rest, nutrition and exercise, setbacks become easier to weather.
5. Look at setbacks as a chance to grow and learn something about yourself. People who adopt this attitude are able to see the situation with a broader perspective.
6. Develop and support a positive view of yourself. Remind yourself that you have strengths and resources that will help you get through tough situations and setbacks. Make a list of your strengths and refer to it periodically.
7. Work on goals and take action. Having personal goals and taking steps to remedy or better your situation has been linked with resilience building.

If you need help in the Chicago area, call Dr. Helen Odessky at (847) 529-8600.